Fraternization is one of those nasty grey areas in the Navy, especially for officers. For junior enlisted, it's easy: hang out with E1-E6, avoid anything that is khaki, especially if it has bars or leafs on the collar. Since there are plenty of enlisted running around a command, there are plenty of people to hang out with, become friends with, and in general enjoy your time in the Navy.
Junior officers don't have this luxury. They are told to not hang out with junior enlisted because it violates the Navy's fraternization policy. They can't hang out with their Chief too much (and most Chiefs won't let them anyway). Senior officers are giving them tasking, so in most cases they avoid them. That leaves fellow JOs, of which there aren't many. So if you don't get along with a selection of 2% of the crew, well, it can be very lonely.
The problem here is that there is a lot of bad gouge about fraternization. So, let's start with an instruction. The Navy's fraternization policy is in
OPNAVINST 5370.2C, which hasn't been updated since 2007, which speaks to its enduring nature. At only 5 pages long, it's a quick read, and worth the 20 minutes it'll take to read it (you can spare 20 minutes from Facebook, trust me). What does it say? In a nutshell:
- Officers and enlisted will not have unduly familiar relationships.
- Chiefs (E7-E9) will not have unduly familiar relationships with E1-E6.
- Obvious examples include cohabitating, sexual relationships, and indebtedness.
What constitutes an unduly familiar relationship? The 5370.2C doesn't try to list all circumstances, but it gives some guidance. An unduly relationship is anything that:
(1) call into question a senior's objectivity;
(2) result in actual or apparent preferential treatment;
(3) undermine the authority of a senior; or
(4) compromise the chain of command.
I think these points should be burned into every Junior Officer's lexicon, because if what you are doing doesn't meet these points, you are probably OK.
So, let's do some examples.